Thanks Fork and CM for your answers.
when your partner discusses her relationship problems with a man who is in love with her. He'll be full of understanding, and she'll appreciate it greatly, but it just reinforces the problems rather than solving them.
Yes, that's something I often wondered about, either I was helping her or just making things worse. I sometimes thought that I'd better let her on her own, but then I'm scared of what she could do... As I said she is depressive, she already has told me twice that she sometimes thinks that she'd better just not live anymore. I know I'm her only real friend (she told me), and I'm scared that she could kill herself if things get really bad and I'm not there to support her.
Enjoy being single and be open to the idea of falling in love with someone else.
That's another problem. I have never had a girlfriend, I'm SICK of being single. And I am open to the idea of falling in love with another girl, and even want it to happen, as I'd stop suffering from things over which I have no control. The problem is that it's unlikely to happen. She is constantly on my mind, even if I haven't seen her for over 2 weeks now. And when I meet another interesting girl, I always have the thought that I'd prefer being with that girl I'm talking about. And it wouldn't be honest engaging in a relationship with a girl while in reality I'd wish I'd be with another...
If you wonder why I never had a girlfriend, it's because in the past I simply was so shy that I wasn't able to talk to a girl I found attractive. But this problem slowly faded with time, and eventually I fell in love with a girl which I managed to communicate with but she wasn't interested so she rejected me. After this I haven't been in love for like a year and a half, cause I just didn't meet a girl I could imagine being with. Then, about 4 months and a half ago, classes began and she was in my group. At the first glance I had at her, I was literally stunned by her beauty, and decided I was going to try to know her. We quickly became very close friends, and eventually, after maybe a month, I deeply fell in love with her. The more I knew her, the more I loved her. I became convinced (and still am) that this is THE girl I want to spend the rest of my life with, and that I will never find another girl like this one. But also, the closer we became, the more she told me about her problems with her boyfriend. And it's really horrible, this guy is really fucked up. He keeps yelling at her, threatening her of awful things, he breaks up with her and then takes her back the day after because "it's the only mean" (his words, for example once he wanted her to quit the job she had at the moment so he broke up just before she left to go to work knowing she wouldn't go because of this and get fired), he tells her awful things to make her cry almost everyday. He says he will break up if she takes the contraception pill, sometimes he will break up if she is on MSN or use the phone etc... and he does a lot of other things in the intention of hurting her.
This guy has total control over her, because she is "dépendante affective" (don't know how to say this in english :S), and he knows how to manipulate her.
