it appears to me not telling the ones you love, that you love them, while loving them, is still a lot better than telling them you love them, while not meaning it or not really loving them. ironically i noticed a similar pattern in me like devildust1982, trying to disassociate from the "love", fearing to lose it, but i think that is probably just fear of lack of control of losing it, hence sort of losing it voluntarily only to have control, which if it's true, is pretty sad, yet still from that you may learn something about yourself, if you look within honestly and sincerely.
apart from that i feel that speaking the love or talking about it, often can, but doesn't have to distort the love itself in a way, which is of course somewhat absurd... probably the language barrier in action or so..
however love is still double when shared and more beautiful.
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peace